Sara married a dude named, "Joss."

I cherished being a dad whenever I could. Unfortunately, my biological children sided with their mothers, leading to a lack of love between us.

I had a chance to remain part of the lives of three of my kids, but sadly, these three didn't grow into adults with the qualities mentioned below, prompting me to end the relationship. I cannot tolerate being around people who lack these attributes (described below), and I choose not to. My willingness to be in a relationship hinges entirely on whether it brings me joy. If it doesn't, I end the relationship for both my benefit and theirs.

Since my "transfiguration" in 1987, I couldn't be the type of father the world expects a man to be. How could I be? I see all people the same, knowing that each human is an incredible, eternal conscious energy form ... Yeah, okay, all ye religious ones ... a spirit who lived long before this solar system existed, and will live long after it is gone, and certainly not in the current Earth-based (mortal) physical form that all ignorantly accept as the person that they appear to be in this "lone and dreary world" ... Yet, who were "you" before your mortal parents got horny, had sex, and created you? ... "living" being properly defined as a physical body of mass that has a human brain that allows the movement of Elohimium®—the "God particle," the smallest particle of any "thing"—across the cells that make the brain up ... Yep, that's called human consciousness ... But anyways ... Back to Sara and Joss:

I have known Sara Smith, biological daughter of L. Kurt and Monica R. Smith for about 20 years now ... longer than I've known any of my own biological children.

Here's what advice I would have given Sara, if she were my daughter and she had found a guy with whom she wanted to make a lifelong commitment:

Sara, your marriage is going to be miserable ... UNLESS ...

You marry someone who really loves you more than he ... or she ... or "they" ... or "it" ... Yeah, I'd probably avoid the "it" ... But anyways ... who really loves you more than he does himself or any other person. This is the primary advise for finding a mate.

There's only one type of person who would be an acceptable lifelong mate. He, she, or they have to be meek and lowly of heart (not prideful, humble but confident).

Your relationship will work if he is kind and doesn't envy (desiring things that someone else has that he doesn't), is not puffed up, doesn't seek his own over yours, is not easily provoked, doesn't think evil (where "evil" is doing something that makes you happy, but makes another miserable), doesn't get joy when another is hurt (rejoiceth not in iniquity) ... like clapping and being happy when his team beats another team (i.e., competition) ... but rejoiceth in the truth (things as they REALLY are), who bears all things with patience, believes all things (allows another person to believe however the other person wants without thinking that the other person is bonkers or going to hell), who hopes all things, and is able to endure all things in patience.

Sara, what did you see in Joss while you were dating him, getting to know him, seeing him as a friend?

Why is Joss different than the other men ... and women ... in your past?

IF I would have been a father, and my child was interested in another, I would have counseled the kid to look for the right signs when they started to become interested in another person. Look for any red flags. These "red flags" are all listed above in italics.

And the greatest of all human attributes is meekness and humility.

Nothing is more important than how the object of your affection treats themself and other people ... ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!

If your partner doesn't have the above attributes, your relationship could last, if you endure to the end ... whenever that might be.

BUT DON'T LET ANYONE EVER TELL YOU THAT MARRIAGE IS A CHALLENGE AND IS HARD SOMETIMES. THAT'S BULLSHIT! The right relationship will always be easy to pursue and endure ... ALWAYS.

Luckily for Sara ... and Joss ... she has a lot of experiences with intimate relationships with others. From experience, Sara has learned what she can tolerate and be happy with in a partner. Maybe Joss was smart enough to wait until his choice of partners had some experience of choice, then chose him.

So,

That's my fatherly advise that I would give a daughter.

It's novel advice, and it always works. Is it new? NO. I quoted the Real Illuminati®'s new American scripture, the part where they describe everything that God is looking for in a person ... nothing more and nothing less.

The success of any relationship with another has nothing to do with how attractive the person is, although that helps with the kinds of bodies we have as Earthlings, how much money they have, or how smart they think they are ... and if they think they're smart, they're not meek and lowly of heart.

Their personal goals should always be: How kind can I be today to myself and to others?

"For none is acceptable before God, save the meek and lowly in heart."(See BOM, Moroni 7:44)

NOTE TO LATTER-DAY SAINTS (because there are so many of you who read my blog): God does NOT accept any BYU athlete or graduate student that does not meet God's ABSOLUTE requirements as outlined in Moroni, chapter 7... NONE ... ABSOLUTELY NONE!